Listening to a recent talk by Ustadh Yahya Rhodus, I was taken back to our recent visit to Mauritania. Ustadh Yahya, when talking about raising a family, mentioned a cure to anxiety that most parents feel. He mentioned that we should place our “trust in Allah as it pertains to our children.” In his words, “we have to leave this world and place our children in His care, so why not place our children in His trust now?” This sounds so simplistic yet so complex, but the Mauritanian mothers have this down.
In our family, I am the one whose shoulders touch the ears in worry on a daily basis and eyebrows develop a permanent arch out of concern and whose mind races in all directions the minute a child is out of sight! The terms “Trust in Allah” has not entered my soul like it has for the Mauritanian women. It's hard not to worry when we live in a society as problematic as ours. We read about the horrific things happening to children in today’s society and it’s impossible not to be slightly paranoid about who is around your child. As a homeschooler, it’s hard not to worry about all that there is to teach and how we may not be teaching enough. It’s hard to not worry if our children are getting enough exposure or not enough exposure to the outside world. It’s hard not to worry if our child is learning well and showing good Adab/Suluk (
But the words of Ustadh Yahya and the wife of the
Sometimes I forget that the journey is just as important as the destination and the trip is already destined by God- all I have to do is move on with faith and conviction. How easy it is to focus on the scorching heat of life and miss the shade of the merciful only because we are too preoccupied with worry!